National Service Person

No! Some guys who are handsome are very snubbish. If I like him, I will just keep it to myself and admire him from my own corner.

If he also finds me attractive, he will come forward and make a move then we can take it from there, but for me to make the first move, no way. The guy will feel too big and might even tell his friends about it and they may make fun of me.

It is not for a lady to approach a guy she likes, it is usually the other way round as we all know so making the first move is a no no for me. No matter how handsome a guy might be, there is no way I will make the first move.

 

Elizabeth Akolipo

Student

I can’t, because mostly a guy has to make the move and not the other way round. No matter how much I admire a guy, I won’t make the first move.  If I do, the guy might think I am desperate because it is guys who make the first move and not girls.

I can’t even imagine myself making the first move on a guy, what will I say to him? I will be so shy and nervous, it won’t be funny at all. My sister, just forget it because it can’t happen, no way. The best I can do is to ask him to be friends with me.

That should not be a problem. We can be friends if he agrees and who knows, it might develop into something more intimate. That will be easier for me to do than to ask him out at first sight, as for that, forget it because it won’t happen.

 

Naomi Osei

Trader

There is no way I can do that. Even when a guy makes the move as is the norm, there can be problems in the relationship, how much more when I make the first move? The least provocation and he will remind me that I came for him.

That will be so embarrassing for me, I won’t know what to do or say. I know myself very well, there is no way I can make the first move on a guy, no matter how good-looking he might be.

Imagine me making the first move and the guy turning me down, God, I will be so embarrassed that I will pray for the earth to open and swallow me. I will curse that day and wish it had not happened in the first place. Honestly, my dear, that can never happen. I will not ever make the first move on a guy.

 

Afia Acheampomaa Bonsu

Student

No! Our custom does not allow a girl to make the first move on a guy. The guy might think you are cheap and might not respect you.

Again, being the first time of seeing  the guy, one should not be hasty in making a move because you may not know his character at first sight so it is not advisable to make a first move on a guy.

Throughout  the relationship, the least thing I do and he may rain insults on me reminding me that I am the one who came for him and not vice versa as is the norm.

 

Cynthia Tei

Beautician

It is difficult. I would have loved to but for the fact that he will refer me to it at the least provocation. When we have a little quarrel, he will remind me that I am the one who came for him. That will be too embarrassing to bear. I can’t go through that at all.

Some guys may even bluff at first sight because they know they are good-looking so imagine making the first move on such a guy. He may even snub me and embarrass me in the process.

To avoid all these, it is better to leave the first move to the guys since that is their duty to make moves at ladies and not the other way round.

 

Naa Lamiley Lamptey

Student

I will make the move depending on the way he presents himself. I will suggest friendship for starters so we can build on it into a beautiful relationship.

That way, we can get to know each other better and have a nice relationship. The question of who made the first move won’t even come up at all during the relationship. Let me say that the environment also counts a lot when making the first move.

If he is alone, that will be easier than when he is with his friends. Among his friends, I will feel intimidated to talk to him, much less propose to him. So you see, it won’t be a bad idea to make a move on a guy as long as the environment is condusive.

 

Regina Okyere

Beautician

As friends, yes, I can make that move but to tell him straight away that I am asking him out is out, that will be very difficult. What will he think of me? If he agrees to be my friend, that will be a good starting point.

We will be good friends and if we click, we will be dating before anyone says “jack”. That will be easier to do than to ask a guy out at first sight. When we start out as friends, we will get to know each other well and what will follow will follow. If the friendship doesn’t last, fine, we will go our separate ways and no one will be bitter.

One reason why I will not ask him out at first sight is because I am scared he may use it against me in future and I will not want that.

 

Mary Takyi

Business Woman

Of course, I will if I have a crush on him. That should not be a problem at all. Times have changed, as the saying goes, what a man can do, a woman can do it better so the same rule applies here.

I won’t hesitate to make the first move on a guy. If he likes me too, we will pick it from there and build something beautiful together. We are in modern Ghana, times have changed so for me to make such a move as a woman is no big deal at all.

I believe that whoever I make that move on will be a gentleman who won’t refer me to the fact that I made the first move because we are in an era where things have changed. Any man who knows what time it is won’t say anything to upset me simply because I made the first move. He should rather be proud of me and not do or say anything to embarrass me.