Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips
Breaking up can be good for you
When you’re considering breaking up with your significant other, it’s easier to think about the reasons you shouldn’t over the reasons you should. There’s a certain level of comfort that comes along with being in a relationship, even when it’s not a great one: you always have someone to talk to or hang out with, you have a date to events, you have someone who makes you feel less lonely, and you don’t have to deal with being single.
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More often than not, thinking about these things causes people to decide against breaking up. Even though there’s nothing wrong with being single, the thought of being alone can still be terrifying! This is the reason so many people stay in bad relationships for longer than they should. They think that it’s better to settle for the wrong person rather than be alone.
But that’s not true at all. Sometimes, ending things with your boo can end up being the absolute best thing for you. It can be tough to see that on your own, which is why I’m telling you. So, if you’ve spent even a few minutes thinking about breaking up with the person you’re with, please read this.
Here are 8 reasons ending your relationship could be the best thing for you:
• You'll have more time for yourself: Being in a relationship almost always cut down on your "me time." Even when you try to still leave time for yourself, you definitely won't get as much of it as you do when you're single. "Me time" is so important, and if you've been denying yourself that, this is a great time to get it back.
• You can be selfish: It's hard to be selfish when you're in a relationship. You have to focus on what someone else wants and needs, and you end up making compromises a lot of the time. You can't always do what you want to do, and sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do.
It's certainly not bad to be that way in a relationship, but it's nice to have moments where you only have to think about YOU. When you break up with someone, you suddenly have the freedom to be as selfish as you want, and no one can stop you.
• You can reconnect with friends: When you're dating someone, you can't give your friends nearly as much time as you can give them when you're single. So use your breakup as a way to reconnect with old friends - or get close to new ones.
• It opens you up to new experiences: A lot of people tend to close themselves off from new experiences when they're in a relationship as opposed to when they're single. They might skip an event or party because someone their boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't like will be there. They might pass up a night out to stay in with their partner.
Being single allows you to say yes to anything without considering the feelings of someone else. This opens up so many doors, and it's honestly exciting.
• It's better to do it sooner rather than later: The longer you drag out a relationship because you're scared to end it, the worse things get. You both get more attached, things get more emotional, and the thought of breaking up becomes more and more distant. This is how people get stuck. Don't get stuck. If you're unhappy, do something.
* It'll make you happier in the end: If you're unhappy in your relationship, then ending it will ultimately make you happier. You might be sad and heartbroken in the beginning, but as you move on, you'll realise how much happier you are on your own. This is a priceless feeling.
• It allows you to meet other people: Just because you're dating someone doesn't mean they're right for you. If you break up with your partner., you're opening up the possibility of meeting someone who IS right for you, someone who will treat you better and make you happier. It also opens you up to meet other friends. Get it?
• Breakups help you grow: As corny as it sounds, it's true: breakups help you learn important lessons, like how to move on and how to deal with sadness. They help you learn more about yourself and what you want and don't want. They help you become more mature and figure things out. This is so important!