Happiness is home-made
Regardless of whether we live in Africa, United States, India or anywhere else, family is the building block of any society, and our greatest fulfilment lies there.
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Of course, one needs to give due importance to work. But if any society works diligently in every other area but neglects the family, it would be the same as straightening deck chairs on the Titanic.
We all seek happiness but what most of us discover is that happiness is a home-made product. If you have a strong and an effective relationship with family members, whether living together or apart, the resultant good vibes and mental solace tend to overflow into all other aspects of life.
When your family is heading in the right direction, you are better able to perform and focus at work. On the other hand, if things aren't going well at home, it is difficult to be deeply happy anywhere else. Thus, it is supremely important that at home, with your family, you concentrate on creating a beautiful family culture.
Marriage is more than a contractual relationship; it is a promise from each individual to stay true to their love and commitment.
While I can't tell you how to choose the right mate, I can advise you to determine what your values and principles are, and who might be a complementary companion.
Write a personal mission statement, outlining what is important to you, how you envision marriage and what family means to you. When the time is right, share this with your companion and encourage him or her to do the same.
Happy marriages don't just happen; they are created with body, mind, heart and spirit. No one can afford to get lazy in their relationship with their spouse.
It must be nurtured and tended to. And when it gets off the track, as all relationships tend to, from time to-time, we must correct our course and come back on track.
You will find that going back to your own mission statement can act as the guiding force that brings you back - because you will live according to what matters most to you.
The power to make a difference in your family lies within you. The place to begin is not with other family members, but with yourself. You have the freedom to choose your actions and you have four unique endowments to guide your responses to people, situations and your environment:
Decide what you desire for yourself and the culture you would like to develop with your family. This vision is more powerful than any problems you may have in the past or present.
Write down your vision in a mission statement and clarify your values and principles.
Organise your priorities according to what matters most to you in alignment with what you envisioned.
Whichever part of the globe you live, always remember it is a beautiful nation with rich histories, traditions and legacy. Your families are at the heart of your nation so do not neglect your most precious resource.
We know with great surety that living principle-centred lives would strengthen us individually, in our marriage, in our families, in our communities and places of work. Stay true to your path and remember what matters most to you.
Source: wishbowl.org