Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

At the start of a year it is healthy to take a close look at your marriage or relationship.

Look at your strengths, weaknesses,opportunities and threats so that you can draw better options for the year for a fruitful, passionate and fulfilling relationship.

As you reflect on your relationship there is one thing you must necessarily do if you ever expected any good results for the New Year; count your blessings in your marriage or relationship.

Your difficult times Today marriages and relationships have become a battlefield with so many casualties; even in marriages which partners are expected to share their lives for life, only one in five works.Sharing your life, dreams, values and aspirations with someone who is uniquely different is difficult but remember that conflicts are part of life and all relationships.

All partners in relationships have their fair share of conflicts.

If Abraham whom God called a friend and David whom God called a man after His heart had conflicts, then you will have yours. Therefore, the fact that you have conflicts does not mean your relationship is bad; it means you are human and in a relationship!

Angels do not marry or get into relationships; imperfect human beings do and conflicts become part of all relationships or marriages. It is therefore impossible to stay in a relationship without conflicts.

You must therefore never quit your relationship because of the challenges you see. Instead see your challenges as neural agents; it is what you do with your conflicts that determines the health of your relationship.

If you handle your conflicts well your relationship grows and matures.

Therefore see the challenges as opportunities for growth as you resolve your conflicts and forgive each other. See them as trials by fire which purifies the gold in you.

If you never have problems in your marriage or relationship you will be less human and incapable of showing and receiving love. For this reason do not give up because of the challenges you face.

Instead count the challenges you face as blessings because they have contributed to make you what you are today.

Your happy times A marriage is the greatest gift of our maker and the most important human investment with many amazing benefits.

Studies show married partners live longer than singles. They are more productive and richer. They are less prone to diseases, depression and substance abuse.

Marriage provides the best environment for your children to grow holistically. It also provides companionship, support and a more fulfilling and passionate sexual expression.

You will not see these benefits unless you start counting your blessings in your marriage. Count your blessings in your marriage and thank your maker for this wonderful gift and the fact that He has counted worthy to call you into His vocation of marriage.

List the big and small things in your marriage. Think of the meals you shared the social activities and your sexual escapades.

List the progress you have made and the support you give each other.

Count your blessings for the spirituality you build. Recall the joy and excitement the children bring to you as parents.

List the small things and count them as blessings because sometimes it’s the small things like the humour, friendship, words of affirmation, acts of service and small gifts that make a difference in your marriage.

List the love messages and the songs you sing. List the visitors you had and how you hosted them. List the romantic walks and drinks you had. You find the more you count as blessings the more you find to count to receive more blessings.

Everything big and small that you appreciate in your marriage bring benefits to you. They are the blessings. Therefore keep counting them to receive more blessings.

Count your blessings for more See your marriage as good and expect good things because nothing good will happen in your marriage except what you expect and feel.

Always give thanks for your marriage.Each day believe God loves you and has good plans for your marriage. He gives you what is best for his good plans for your marriage.

You must therefore thank God for the gift of your marriage and partner.

See your spouse as your Maker’s greatest gift to you and count the blessings in what you share in your life.

Count everything that happens in your marriage as blessings.

It does not mean you deny your problems but never allow the challenges you face in your marriage to prevent you frome njoying the beauty of your marriage.

At the end of a tunnel you will see light and see the darkness as channel to blessings.

Studies show counting your blessings give higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality and optimism. It gives higher capacity for compassion and goodprogress in important goals.

The good news is that we all have blessings that make marriage worth while and this is the best time to bring them to light.

Therefore, each day count your blessings in your marriage.

List them one by one and you will be surprised what God has done for you and have taken for granted. You will then have no option than to keep counting your blessings.

From the fullness of God’s grace may you receive one blessing after another inyour m arriage.

Always remember the more you count your blessings the more you receive to count them as blessings.