Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

One characteristic of the animal kingdom is that males fight over females to pass on their genes. You find this among insects, birds, reptiles and mammals. 

In fact among a species of apes, one in four males is killed by its own kind over territory, more specifically over females. 

A male lion may kill cubs from other males to hasten ovulation in the female and pass its genes to her.

Today, with advancement in social medial, we hear of many cases of men fighting over women. For example, early this year, two men  inflicted severe knife wounds on each other in a fight over a woman. 

Again, this month, we heard of  two men who fought over a woman. After the fight, one of them went for his car and drove it over his rival and killed him instantly. 

The power of women! No doubt Akans say emaa beku mmarima or men suffer greatly because of men.

Men fighting over women is not new. In fact, studies show men fighting over women in the prehistoric times could be far worse than today. For example, mass graves of skeleton investigated by the Durban University suggested tribes killed their rivals for their woman.

Men are born competitive and therefore fight over women more than women fighting over men. This is because men get great emotional fulfillment as they provide and protect the women they love. 

Studies, however, show that when men fight over a woman, it really has little to do with the woman. It is more about expressing their ego.

Fighting over women is more common among the young ones. They have higher testosterone levels to be more aggressive to impress others. 

It is also known that some women feel empowered by the sight of two men fighting over them and the knowledge that they can drive men into extreme physical measures.  

The question is; will you fight over a woman?

Yes, always

Some men think they must protect those they love and fight if they have to do so. Some men have invested heavily in women like sponsorship through the university and building properties for them. They can’t see their investment go down the drain without a fight. 

Some fight for self-respect or protect the integrity of someone they love. Some think you must fight if you are with your girl and another man emasculates you severely.

No never

It is only men who lack confidence who fight over a woman. If you fight over a woman, it means you have no trust in her being your woman. 

There is a choice that a woman must make whenever a man comes into the picture. Beating a woman will not automatically sway her to your side.

Will you fight over a woman?

It is normal to have a woman and have some men interested in her. If you think beating other perceived rivals will win you the woman you love, think again. You may win the fight and lose the woman. 

Fighting over a woman is the ultimate sign of a man losing himself. Instead of looking at your rivals, look into yourself and see what you can do better and differently to get your woman to your side.

This is not to say some women are not worth fighting for but you should consider why you need to fight for her in the first place. 

Fight yourself to get better and keep your woman instead of fighting other people to keep them away. If your woman wants to go, no fighting can stop her. 

If you love your woman unconditionally and meet her emotional needs, you will not  fight over her because she will not look for less.