Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

Food is crucial for human survival because it provides nutrients used by the body for growth, repair of body cells and energy for the body.

What you put in your body determines how healthy you are. What you eat can heal or harm you, your lover and subsequently your marriage. You and your lover are what you eat.

Three conditions are important for the optimum use of food in your body. First, your food must be balanced; it must contain carbohydrates, fats, proteins, minerals and vitamins in their right proportions. 

Second, you must eat at the right times because what you eat is as important as when you eat. Third, you must prepare your food well.Poorly prepared food will predispose you to many health hazards.

The challenge

In the past, girls were taught to cook as part of preparation toward family life. Akans say  ‘obea ko aware a ode ne na ko’ meaning that in marriage, a wife puts into practice what she received from her mother. 

Akans also say that a woman who does not know how to cook will after marriage have her soup put into a bottle and exhibited to the general public (Asare Opoku). Mothers and daughters , therefore, took cooking seriously.

Not today. Many ‘dada mma’ or children of the rich and “book long girls’’ make no effort to learn how to cook because they had house helps to do everything for them. 

Many complaints come in about graduate girls who can’t cook beyond boiling an egg. Then they go into marriage.

Some try to cover up their poor cooking by becoming ‘take away wives’; they want to eat out often. Some try to cook but after cooking can’t tell if they cooked stew or soup. 

They are also those who take a ‘lawyer’ by adding ‘koobi’ or salted fish to everything they prepare and hope ‘koobi’ will cancel every bad taste.

Many husbands are frustrated by their  wives’ poor cooking. Some complain indirectly by eating very little at home. Some go to ‘don’t mind your wife chop bar’. Poor cooking becomes an underlying factor to many problems in marriage.

Many years ago a mother stormed into her son’s house and told the young wife she had come to cook for her son. The wife said there was no way anyone could come to her matrimonial home to cook for her husband. 

The mother said there was no way anyone could feed her son with poison. The young wife said there was no way anyone could marry her husband in the spirit. 

The man looked on helplessly as the exchanges reached high pitch. The marriage did not last one year because the young wife was poor at cooking.

What you must know

Cooking is like an art; it improves by learning and doing. No matter how good you think you are, desire to improve upon your cooking. 

Look for recipes or go to cooking school to put variety into your food.  See each time you cook as an opportunity for variety which  is the spice of good cooking. No food meets all the specific nutritional needs of every organ, gland and tissue.

Any diet that relies on only one type of food may be damaging to your health. See a dietician to help you plan your menu and how much nutrients you need so that you can keep a constant weight. 

Excess fat causes weight gain and abnormal amounts of cholesterol contributes to heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke and various other diseases. 

Respect the times you eat. Three meals a day starting at about seven or eight in the morning and at five hours intervals would be beneficial for you. Cook your own meals because it is hard to find food from vendors that are balanced and healthy.

Eating good food with your lover is sensual. It is a simple way to keep in love because it provides an opportunity to relax and bring you physically close to your lover and warm communication as you share your thoughts and plans. It is a direct way to your man’s heart. 

If you keep ‘spoiling’ your man with good meals, he will always stay connected to you.