I have a personal experience, my boyfriend was transferred to another region and that took a toll on our relationship. We stayed in touch for a while but after some time, we just lost touch with each other and eventually fell apart.

I don’t know if he went for someone else or not but here is a situation where I didn’t offend him and vice versa so I will gladly take him back when he comes back because I still love him very  much. As the saying goes, the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know so I will stick to my devil. Even if he went for someone else and had a baby with that person, I will still take him back simply because I still love him.

Isaac Andoh

Security Man

No, not  at all. If  I didn’t offend her and she left, there is no way I will take her back. How can she behave that way? Just leaving without a tangible reason is neither here nor there. Such a person cannot be trusted.

If on the other hand, I am the one who offended her leading to the break up, I will sit her down and talk to her so we can sort things out. I will apologise without hesitation and even compensate her with a nice gift. I will plead with her to accept me back.

I will promise her never to repeat whatever it is that I did which put her off and sent her away. I believe if I am able to do all this, she will forgive me and accept me back. I know people will say I am selfish because I said that I won’t take her back if she offends me but the truth is I am a man and have my ego at stake.

If she actually left me for another guy and comes back, how does she expect me to accept her back? It is just not possible, period!

Rita Mawusi

Secretary

If I love him, I will take him back and probably give him a second chance. I have to be sure that he is not just coming back to have fun but coming back for real. As a lady, there are some tests I can put him through to be sure that he is back for real.

If he passes that, great, he is welcome back otherwise, no second chance for him especially when I haven’t offended him in any way.  Guys can be very funny sometimes so it is better to study them very well before taking any serious step.

As I said earlier, I will take him back because I still love him and I will expect that he treats me well as I deserve so that we can have a beautiful relationship. He should not take me for granted but treat me as his queen and all will be well.

Alberta  Kyeremanteng

Business Woman

It depends, if the problem was from me, I will gladly take him back otherwise no way! I will take him back if it was my fault and ask him to forgive me. I will do everything to make him happy so that we can both be happy with each other.

Let’s just say everything was cool between us and  he left without any provocation, how do you expect me to accept him back? It will be a very difficult situation for me, but if I stepped on his toes, sending him away, then I will go on my knees and apologise to him for peace to prevail.

Even the Bible teaches us to forgive, fine. I will expect him to forgive me so we can move on. The reason I will expect him to forgive me is simply because I am the one at fault and have genuinely apologised but if it was his fault, going away without any plausible reason, that will be very difficult for me to accept him back. I hope you understand me.

Erica Goka

Lab Technologist

I won’t take him back because I believe I have been faithful to him. As a woman, men make passes at me even if they know I am married but I ignore them and I don’t accept their proposals.

If after all this, he leaves  me and comes  back I won’t take him back. Any good relationship survives on trust so I can’t trust him again that is why I will find it very difficult to take him back. I just can’t take him back. It will be very difficult for me so I won’t even try to accept him back, it just won’t work.

People may argue that to err is human and to forgive, divine, but with issues of the heart, it is very difficult. Once the trust is gone, it goes with everything and it is almost impossible to put the pieces together.

William Opare

Actor

I would like to know why she left in the first place. If it was my fault, I will ask for forgiveness. Now, if she actually went for another man, I will find out what kind of relationship they had together. It could be that the man did not involve her intimately so I have to be careful not to jump into a hasty conclusion.

It could be that she had nothing to do with the man, but I am made to believe that she did because someone told me she saw her with a man. One has to be very cautious in handling issues of this nature.

If indeed, she had something to do with the man, she could be infested with any kind of disease. That way, you can accept her as a mere friend because you loved her in time past.

Benjamin Ansah Addo

Theatre Practitioner

Yes and no, it depends on the issue that took her out of the relationship. It could be my fault, if it is my fault, I will readily accept her. If it is her fault, I will look into it and accept her because we are all human and our nature differs from each other.

So for me, maybe there is something I wasn’t doing right so I will do well to examine myself and with her assistance, change from my ways and do what is right to save our relationship. So, regardless of whose fault it was, that should not be a problem, we should settle it as two adults and sort things out.

Once we settle it as mature people, I am sure we will live happily and each one of us will be careful not to offend each other.

Kweku Black

Student

It depends, if the fault is mine and she comes back, I will take her back because I love her. If, the fault is hers, I won’t take her back. Maybe she went after money and she is only coming back to me because things did not work out well for her , sorry, but I won’t take her back.

Girls of today love to flirt with older men because of money, they only come back to you when their plans backfire so I am very careful. Knowing very well that I have not offended her in any way yet she dumps me and comes  running back to me because things did not work out for her, where ever she went.

Do you think she would have come back to me if everything had worked out for her? So, it is as simple as that, I won’t take her back for all the tea in China.

Interviews by Jayne Buckman-Owoo/Graphic Showbiz