“Being naked is not beauty” — Nigeria’s First Lady urges parents to teach daughters modesty

Nigeria’s First Lady, Oluremi Tinubu, has called on parents and women across the country to instil the values of modesty and good character in young girls, while also encouraging mentorship for those from disadvantaged backgrounds.

Mrs Tinubu made the appeal during an interfaith gathering in Abuja where Muslim and Christian women came together for a joint Iftar and Lent break-fast event aimed at promoting unity and reflection during the religious season.

Speaking at the event, the First Lady urged women to take a more active role in guiding younger girls, particularly those who may lack support or opportunities.

“I challenge you to have a mentee with you, so that not somebody you’ll have been mentoring all the time, but just pour into the life of a young girl from an indigent background,” she said in remarks captured in a video that has since circulated widely online.

“You know, help them, even if it is to give a scholarship, encourage them, and teach them. Teach them good virtue. Teach them how to be good women.”

Mrs Tinubu said mentorship could play a crucial role in shaping the lives of young girls, stressing that experienced women had a responsibility to help guide the next generation through moral support, education and practical assistance.

She also used the occasion to raise concerns about the way some young women present themselves in public, urging parents and guardians to encourage modest dressing and self-respect.

“Teach them how to dress well. Because we see that our young people, you know, they’ve really taken it, I don’t read social media, so it doesn’t bother me. I will take it again. Teach them how to cover up, and you know, being naked is not beauty,” she said.

“You know, we don’t know why they are doing that, but beauty comes from within. You know, and our men, God will also help them and open their eyes. I know social media will go on.”

Her comments come amid increasing public debate in Nigeria over concerns about what some observers describe as a growing trend of revealing dressing among young women.

Mrs Tinubu said families and community leaders had a responsibility to promote values that emphasise dignity, self-respect and positive role models for young people, particularly girls who may be navigating social pressures in an increasingly digital world.

The First Lady also emphasised the importance of compassion and practical support for girls from poorer backgrounds, noting that small acts such as mentorship, scholarships and encouragement could make a lasting difference in their lives.