Do not make these 3 fatal mistakes in your relationship…
What are the mistakes people in relationships make? How can you be yourself, manage a relationship, and avoid them?
Advertisement
1. Change? But what kind of change…
This is the first question that arises near the beginning of every new love story. Drunk with passion, excited to have met a beautiful woman who seems to thoroughly appreciate us, we try to organically build trust. And we become Mr. Nice Guy.
It’s natural, but can have some negative long term consequences.
You will be blamed in the future having been too nice, too considerate, too altruistic, if you are unable to stay the course when the routine gets boring, you’re going to hear about it. “I did not realise that you were like that”, “Now I see your true nature” will become part of the arguments that can cause you to doubt yourself and the strength of your relationship.
Trying to please her is not a bad thing in itself. Be careful though, not to erase your personality and self-assertion in the service of trying to develop your relationship.
Contrary to popular belief, disputes and disagreements are not adverse events in relationships. They actually build emotional attachment.
How can love develop if all you have between one another is one agreement after the other? How
will you react when the other person shows some signs of independence?
Other Trending Stories
2. Isolation and refusing to socialise
Having a girlfriend is great, but you also need to have a life. Refusing to meet with friends and cocooning up in some secret place with your girl is no way to live life.
One of the worst choices a couple can make is to stop interacting with the outside world. The causes of this isolation are often jealousy and possessiveness.
Don’t be like that.
Do not let your relationship take precedence over the rest of your life. You put too much pressure on your sweetheart and she will feel trapped.
A relationship needs diversity. Family meetings, updates, new friends, new interests and hobbies these are the bonds that you need.
3. Dominance and the notion of “rights”
As a relationship is an agreement between two people, there needs to be some communication. You need to respect the psychological needs of your partner
That is to say, you should be careful to be yourself, without just doing whatever you feel like all the time with no regard to your beautiful lady. This can be dreadful.
No, you can’t grant yourself the right to openly flirt with other women, to take all the decisions, to dictate the way you see things and use manipulation to get whatever you want!
A relationship is a place for exchange, communication and discussion. Having your own way, is another way to say to your partner “what you think doesn’t count.” The problem isn’t that you don’t completely understand the other side … it’s that you’re not even trying!