Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

Who can resist the urge to look at their ex’s Facebook page after a breakup? It calls your name and whispers, “Check me out!” No harm, right?

An astute researcher in England begs to differ. One study concluded that the more time you spend on your ex’s Facebook page, the more psychological distress you experience, the greater your desire for your ex, and the more difficulty you have moving on.

You shouldn’t really be surprised. That’s because most of us realise that the toxic connections we have with our exes are stoked by talking about, thinking about, and looking at stuff about them. 

If you are looking for love or a long-term relationship, these are the daters to avoid at all costs!

The 'Party Animal' Dater: If you are young and just having fun, dating a party king/queen can be exciting! If you are looking for a more serious relationship, the party animal is not usually the direction you will want to go in. 

Many women scoff at the idea of dating shorter men, and and a poll claims it's actually the vast majority of women. According to a survey by High And Mighty, 70 percent of women say a man under six feet wouldn't stand a chance with them. Ouch!

For starters, society has taught us that men are "supposed" to be taller than women, but if we go by that archaic rationale, then I should be in the kitchen cooking up a pot roast for myboyfriend. Then, of course, there's the equally antiquated idea that men who are vertically challenged are somehow less masculine.

An ex-boyfriend has been jailed for sending his former girlfriend a gun EMOJI after a French judge ruled it could be deemed a death threat.

The 22-year-old, from the Drôme area of southeast France, sent the cartoon image having taken the break-up of their relationship badly, a court heard.

The relationship market has become very competitive. Younger and more daring women have flooded the market. 

Some fear being left on the shelf and this can cause fear and panic because in our tradition a woman is expected to marry and have children.

What will you do when while waiting to get into a relationship and marry, you find a prospective lover? Do you wait and hope he will come after you or chase after him?

Having a ‘bachelor’s’ degree (not the university one) in Africa can sometimes be a lot of fun, you know. I sometimes have some loved ones nag, “What on earth are you waiting for!? Would you want to marry at 50!? Do you want to be a priest at all?” I laugh some thoughts off. 

Being a single African is no mean task (or should I say achievement?). Living on a continent where marriage is believed to add value to one’s self-worth is such a hard thing to do, especially as a single man/woman. One is pestered with the issue of marriage wherever they find themselves. 

In choosing you, I stopped choosing myself. I chose you. Every single moment for 633 days, I chose to love you. To believe you. To forgive you. To embrace you.

I chose to stand by you even when times got tough and nearly unbearable. Even when I had lost nearly everything and knew I probably should stop, I kept choosing you.

Girl, just say no. Breakups don't always go the way we've planned, and sometimes, one or both parties might secretly want the other person back. At that point, you should ask yourself, “Why exactly does my ex keep popping up after a breakup in the first place?"

You might have completely moved on and be having the time of your life, and then suddenly, there’s your ex. Again. 

A Ghanaian lady in a lucrative business gave up her job and followed her unfaithful husband who has three children by three women out of wedlock. They went to America to find treatment for him. In the end, against the advice of medical experts, she donated her kidney to her man. She was, however, very happy she did it to save her man. Will you risk your life for a cheating lover?

We make the question easier by explaining that to die in this context means to give strength to someone in their most difficult of situations without expecting a reward. We die for our lovers when we see a great need in them and see ourselves as only privileged to meet our lover’s needs unconditionally.

The word “date” is enough to strike equal amounts of fear and excitement into the heart of any man or woman. 

Though making a good impression is important, it's also important to relax and have a good time. It might seem difficult to strike a balance between the two, but it is possible. 

The most successful relationships have a strong foundation of trust. When attracted to a woman, your natural instinct may be to rush into the relationship.

However, most women open up slowly and you should only ask her to trust you insofar as you have proved yourself trustworthy. 

The real reason people close their eyes when they kiss is because the brain can't deal with more than two things at once. 

That is the finding of academics who have explored one of the great mysteries of the human psyche. 

When people pucker up the brain finds it difficult to process the sensation if cognitive power is also being used to analyse what we see, said psychologists from Royal Holloway, University of London.

WHAT sort of buzz, drives a man to one-night-stand, relationships? Lola had accompanied her friend to her ex-husband’s birthday party, hoping to have the good time she promised. “He has birthday bashes annually”, said Lola, “and my friend has stayed friends with her ex because he was a good provider even when their marriage wasn’t really working.

“He is a real clown, more a Jack-the-dad than the successful man he’s turned out to be. The party, apart from its not being a landmark one, was elaborate —good food, good booze and a good crowd. The music was a jazzy mix. Later in the evening, I stood outside the busy toilet when he said I could use the one in his bedroom. I wasn’t there one minute, when he burst in and was all over me. I was shocked. He mumbled that he’d been watching me all evening; that he’d found me attractive for ages, and all those mushy things men say when they are in heat. I was shocked and terribly embarrassed. I had never given him the impression I fancied

Most of the time, love comes when you are not looking for it but going through normal routines of life such as working, relaxing at the beach, visiting friends or shopping.

Depression can come from a disorder of power. If you are feeling powerless in your relationship, either in general or because of a particular problem, odds are high that depression will creep into your emotional state.

Depression can feel like you're under a perpetual dark cloud. It also causes uncharacteristically negative thoughts about yourself, others and your future. If you are feeling powerless, experiencing dark moods or noticing unusually negative thoughts, it might be time to check out the patterns of communication in your relationship and see if your relationship is the reason.

t can be terrifying to put yourself out there and ask your significant other about the future. You love him or her and want this to work out. What if they bolt when you bring it up? Regardless of where you are in your relationship, taking the next step is always a scary transition.

In the past, the men were the breadwinners, while the women were the home makers. However, today, due to interventions and equal opportunities, many women have proved themselves as capable as men in all professions including medicine, law, engineering and administration.

Unrequited love can be frustrating and stressful. Most people have experienced this feeling at some time.

If you have encountered a guy that you envision being with but are not sure if he feels the same way about you, it can keep you up all night feeling lovelorn and lost.