Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips
Time to die for your lover
A Ghanaian lady in a lucrative business gave up her job and followed her unfaithful husband who has three children by three women out of wedlock. They went to America to find treatment for him. In the end, against the advice of medical experts, she donated her kidney to her man. She was, however, very happy she did it to save her man. Will you risk your life for a cheating lover?
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We make the question easier by explaining that to die in this context means to give strength to someone in their most difficult of situations without expecting a reward. We die for our lovers when we see a great need in them and see ourselves as only privileged to meet our lover’s needs unconditionally.
Why die for a lover?
When we get into a relationship, we are required to give support and companionship to our lovers. We pick up the slack where our lovers fall short so that we give strength to them but not to seek gain. Through our actions, words and positive attitude, we help our lovers reach their full potential. This is our maker’s command to fulfil as we treat our lovers how we want to be treated. The sacrifices we make for our lovers make them better for us too.
How to die for a lover.
Renew your mind
See your lover and relationship as precious and worth suffering for .Appreciate that all relationships are difficult because we are human. Hurts, failures and disappointments are real in all relationships.
Our lovers hurt us because we have different values, needs and expectations we choose to forgive. It costs to forgive but it gives emotional health and spiritual healing. There is no wound in your relationship you cannot heal if you choose to forgive.
Forgiveness, therefore, is key to any happy relationship because negative attitudes will hold you prisoner in a concentration camp of your own making. Choose freedom. A forgiving spirit will open your eyes to the beauty of true love. We must, therefore, be prepared to leave the past and start with new hope as we let go our negative attitudes in our relationship. We must forgive and forget completely because our maker commands us to do so.
Put the focus on yourself
By your sacrifices and acting alone, you can make your relationship better because your lover will react positively to your godly acts. Stop what causes hurt - dishonesty, selfishness, intolerance, inequality, incompatibility, unrealistic expectations, poor communication, disrespect and lack of appreciation.
Give up what you consider to be important to you if it makes your lover better. That is what you do when you die for your lover.
You must also appreciate that in a true relationship, you are expected to act as one. You die for yourselves as you honestly and completely share all areas of your lives – time, finance, hopes, aspirations and challenges. Change your language from ‘me and mine’ to ‘we and ours’.
Time to die for your lover
Christians this week celebrate the death of a Man who hated sin but loved sinners to the point of freely dying physically for all men even when he was rejected, falsely accused, taunted, abused and tortured. He prayed for forgiveness for all and thus, established a pattern of forgiveness.
Let Jesus be a model of true love by dying for your lover even when he or she abuses and maltreats you. You should develop the positive mental attitude to say, as the old highlife song “medo wo senea wo te yi ara” (l love you just as you are or unconditionally).
At this time and age when selfishness, pride, vindictiveness among others are rife and lovers are murdering, suppressing, abusing and leaving each other, choose to be better by dying for your lover. Nothing strengthens a relationship better because with that positive mental attitude, you can keep your relationship going even when the emotional love is gone.
Die by giving instead of taking. Be there always to give strength and hope. Die by doing all it takes to make your relationship happy and fulfilling even when your lover appears ungrateful and unloving.
Research has shown clearly that the greater the sacrifices we make for our lovers, the greater the potential for a happy and fulfilling relationship because we can withstand any stress, any storm and stand tall in the darkest hours as we die for each other.
Die by pouring out your heart in all you do for your lover no matter how unbearable our lovers may treat us. On this festive season of Easter, resolve to die for your lover today and always to enjoy the benefit of sharing a life.
