Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

Nobody ever jumps for joy after going through a breakup — we're not going to pretend that you should in any way be celebrating the end of your relationship with Champagne and toasts. Even when everyone around you says that you made the right choice, it can still be hard to let go.

I'm speaking from legitimate experience when I say that I get it. When you're still reeling from the breakup, and after you put so much into the relationship, it's easy to begin to question why you're letting it go and moving on. These are the 22 signs that you did in fact make the right choice to end things — read 'em and rest a little bit easier, then start making moves to move on!

1. You always feared that they would leave you.

2. You had more admiration for other couples than you did yourself and your SO.

3. When you think back on what the relationship was like, the bad memories come up first.

4. Jealousy was a major dynamic between the two of you.

5. They made you feel bad for the things you're interested in.

6. You didn't feel like they supported your career goals.

7. You lost friends because of the relationship.

8. There was a constant struggle for superiority; the two of you were never equals.

9. Either of you would divulge that they missed the "old version" of the other.

10. You didn't feel comfortable around their family, or vice versa.

11. You felt like you had to hide an aspect of who you are to maintain their approval.

12. Either of you had to vie for affection.

13. You or they were constantly worried about what the other was doing when you were apart.

14. Even small conflicts turned into tumultuous arguments.

15. There were double standards — things that one of you could do that the other couldn't.

16. Either of you were continually threatening to end the relationship.

17. The relationship more often felt draining than it did uplifting.

18. Your friends and family think the two of you are better off apart.

19. You depended more on others for emotional support than you did your significant other.

20. You often found yourself lashing out at your partner, sometimes without really knowing why.

21. Your lives never fully (or easily) melded together.

22. You were more often worried about your future together than you were excited for it.