Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

When we first fall in love with someone, it is a euphoric feeling that is very addictive & holds our emotions hostage. 

Suddenly, life is perfect and we can’t stop smiling regardless of other obstacles that we may encounter. Love is powerful and affects all of us in our lifetime. It is how we handle this “gift” that will allow us to keep receiving it.

Why does this four letter word change our behaviour so much? In her article, Crazy Things We Do For love, which was published on examiner.com, counsellor, Susan Maccord, writes about the crazy things people do when in love.

Love rules our by Red AdBlocker" href="#">hearts and minds; our hearts don’t always lead us in the right direction. Our actions towards someone we are attracted to can be premature or not well thought out. It is a feeling like no other and like any drug, it makes people act differently.

Many people have committed heinous crimes out of passion. They do the crazy things and regret later. Factors such as

• Growing Insecurities

• Jealousy (fear of losing them to someone else)

• Wanting control over their partner

• Envy (more popular, better career, more confident)

• Sexually abusive have pushed people to the wall to commit such “passionate” crimes.

But sincerely, how far would you go to change for someone?

If your partner preferred your natural by Red AdBlocker" href="#">hair over your long Brazillian hair you love to wear or he wants you to stop making up because in his words, “he wants it natural?” would you barge to such demands? 

To the guys, what if your girlfriend wants you to shave off that beard you have kept for ages. Hit the gym to muscle up, change careers or engage in sexual fetishes for her? Just how much would you alter yourself to appease someone you love?

There is nothing wrong with doing little things for each other so that you are more compatible. Taking up a new sport, or compromising on your looks is acceptable and welcomed in a partnership. If you are constantly being harassed about changing who you are physically or mentally, this is unacceptable and surpasses any red flag query.

Jealousy can make you do crazy things when you are in love!

Some people have gone to great lengths to make someone jealous or get back at them because they were jealous. Is it really because they truly love that person, or is because they want their undivided attention more so and they are feeling rejected?

Some people are desperate to hold on to a partner

How many times have you heard about the manipulative female who wants to hold on to her man by getting pregnant? The boyfriend who uses female sensitivities to keep her in the relationship; “The children love you,” “My family will be devastated,” “I’m nothing without you.” This all blackmail to keep someone in this “dying” scenario. The big question is; why would you want to force someone into loving you? If it is not reciprocated, it is not love.

Many people do not know how to be alone and this becomes a fear that makes them do desperate things. Rejection is another powerful demon that plays havoc on people’s egos. Both sexes need to take time to reflect and calm down before they react to a hurtful situation. Retaliation is usually regretted when acted upon in anger. 

Manipulative Things People Have Done For Love:

• Physically hurting themselves to get their partners attention.

• Trying to make their partner feel sorry for them.

• Stalking them when they are out with others or after a break-up.

• Reading their emails, texts due to lack of trust!

• Keeping friends away so they have total control without interference.

• Holding a damaging secret over their partner.

• Threaten to end their life if their partner leaves them.

Can “Doing Crazy Things For Love” be a Good thing in a Relationship?

There are numerous things that may be categorised as crazy but some of them can be a wonderful way to add excitement to a relationship. Doing something “off the wall” that is out of character can keep the fires burning at home. It shows creativity to think of innovative ways to by Red AdBlocker" href="#">enhance your partnership. It will never grow old if complacency is removed.

Having realistic expectations will also help your relationship stay on a healthy path. Listen to each other, compromise on activities and social outings and never try to control or manipulate your partner. 

If both people always put each other first, there won’t be room for games or manipulation because the respect will always be there, leaving the insecurities “behind” where they should be in a loving home.