Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips

Looking for the perfect partner isn’t exactly the easiest of tasks. When you find the one person you like, you’re bound to look for signs she loves you. You’re not in high school anymore, so you obviously can’t play mind games or be the quiet one who watches her from afar and just writes her name in your book.

We’re beyond all of that now, because that’s what adult life does to you. It could be a new colleague, your old roommate’s sister or just your sister’s friend that you’ve been crushing on forever. You really like her but you have no idea if she feels the same way. You can’t ask her unless you know for sure, can you? Of course, it would be so much easier if you could just go and tell her that you’re in love with her. But again, welcome to the adult world.

You notice how she blushes around you and twirls her hair when she’s talking to you. Is she laughing too loudly to get your attention or is that what you think she’s doing? She’s messaging you about what happened at work, but does she talk like that with everyone? Your hands grazed each other at the table, intentional or an accident? There are just too many questions and not many answers which leave you more confused than ever. You just can’t seem to get a clear idea of whether she likes you or not.

So, what do you do? You start looking for signs that tell you she’s secretly in love with you. These may be hard to read at first, but these are the ones you should watch out for if you want to know if she’s secretly loving you.

Watch for the eyes and the smile

If the body language isn’t convincing enough, her eyes and smile are the next signs she secretly likes you. The way she looks at you is very crucial. So, if you catch her looking at you for long periods of time, or just making a lot of eye contact, then she’s definitely into you. It’s honestly not very easy for girls to hide it when they like someone. If she’s smiling more than needed and definitely more than she does for others, then she’s smitten for sure. 

You’re getting all the attention

Women are known for being detail oriented, but with you, it’s a different play altogether. She’s listening to every word you say and every move you make. She’ll remember something you told her almost a month ago, even if it was a lame joke or a random story. She’ll know what kind of food you like, what kind of clothes you wear and maybe, even some details about your work. She just can’t stop herself from being so interested in you.

3. The physical effect you have on her

If she’s falling, for you then this is one of the main signs she secretly loves you. Women’s body language undergoes an instant change when they’re around someone they like. So, if she likes you, she’s going to be fidgeting with her hair or maybe re-checking her makeup. She’s laughing at all your jokes, even the not-so-funny ones! And, even if she’s the kind who loves her sweatpants, she’s putting an effort to look nice for you. Do you see what you are doing to her?

4. Plenty of flattery is coming your way

One of the main signs she loves you is if she gives you compliments consistently. For women, compliments are very important when it comes to conveying that love is a possibility. Compliments work like an ice breaker for them – “that white shirt looks good on you” – makes you feel nice, doesn’t it? It’s not just your physical appearance; she’s giving you the positives about your other qualities too. So, if she’s being very supportive and complimenting you, she’s definitely into you.

5. She’s getting touchy

No, I don’t mean she’s going to feel you up at every chance she gets, but she’s not going to miss a chance to have simple physical contact with you. Playful pushing, seemingly unintentional grazing of hands and shoulders, playful taps, poking or those cute fights definitely point to one of the signs she loves you. It could just be fun food fights, or annoying you with clicking random pictures of you, or just about anything silly she can find. Do not think that she’s desperate to get her hands on you. It’s just her way of physically flirting with you and showing that she’s interested in you. Those hugs, accidental grazes, and brushing against your hand definitely mean something good for you.