Valentine’s/Chocolate Day love?

Friday, February 14, 2025 was Valentine’s/Chocolate Day! Valentine’s Day has an interesting history in our home.

For a boy who spent all my seven years of secondary education in all-boys’ schools, like my classmates, I had never heard of Valentine’s Day.

My “Manager” on the other hand, spent all seven years in a girls-only school where they started Valentine’s Day with the love question, “will you be my Valentine?”

Indeed, when her classmate Mary came home on Valentine’s Day, the two giggled like little girls as they reminisced school days with “will you be my Valentine?”

When we got married, therefore, our different perspectives on the significance of Valentine’s Day created friction which could have triggered off World War 3 in our home!

Below is an article I wrote in 2021 on Valentine’s Day titled: “You can postpone anything, but NOT Valentine’s Day!”
 

“To the glory of God, Valentine’s Day 2021 has come and gone peacefully for me! Why? In 2020, I was not that lucky!

Signs that I was catching a cold started on the Tuesday before Saturday, February 14, 2020 Valentine’s Day. By Friday I was knocked out despite the medication I had started.

Plans of going to Kumasi that weekend for a funeral got scuttled with my cancellation of my flight. Come Saturday, my bed became my Valentine. 

1999 Valentine experience

Despite my experience of Valentine’s Day in 1999, having fallen suddenly ill in 2021, I told myself I would make up with a special treat for my “Manager” as soon as I got well.

What happened on Valentine’s Day 1999?

As the Commanding Officer of the Ghana Military Academy, I left home early that morning as I always did. My day in the field was tiring.

Therefore, when I got home in the evening expecting “Manager’s” smiling welcome, I was struck by the rather cold reception.

When I asked what was wrong, the answer was a terse “nothing” which immediately confirmed there was something wrong.  

My mind went into overdrive searching for what I could have done wrong again, as everything was fine when I left home that morning. Those were not the days of mobile phones which allowed calling home anytime. Eventually, after some persuasion, the answer came out…  “you did not give me a card or wish me a happy

Valentine’s Day this morning!”

Dumbfounded, I apologised profusely for my dereliction of duty and promised on my honour to be of good behaviour with immediate effect!  

When I told my officers the following morning at coffee break about my ordeal the previous evening at home for my not living up to Valentine protocols, they had a field day laughing at me.

At the end of the coffee break, a “communiqué” was issued by my officers that, never again would they allow such a calamity to befall their Commanding Officer. 

‘Communiqué’

The communiqué was a simple one. Monthly reminders for me would take place regularly. From January 1 the following year I would be given weekly reminders.

Then from February 1, I would be given daily reminders. 

A week before Valentine Day, a card would be brought to me to inscribe the appropriate words of love.

On ‘Valentine-Minus-One-Day,’ i.e., February 13, 2020, I would be officially reminded at coffee break about my forthcoming task the next morning.

The card would then be safely stowed in my bag.

Finally, my driver was to ask me before leaving home on Valentine’s Day if ‘mission was accomplished.’

With this well-rehearsed procedure, things worked with military precision.

There was joy in my house when I delivered the card, and wished “Manager” a happy Valentine’s Day.

My previous iniquity a year earlier was atoned for and I was forgiven.

So what happened in 2021? 

Valentine 2021

The saying goes, “man proposes, and God disposes!” A bad flu the week of Valentine sentenced me to bed on Valentine’s Day.

This I thought would easily be understood as a force majeure.

Two days after Valentine, a brand new red towel was brought me in the bathroom to replace a blue one. 

Innocently, I asked if that was my Valentine towel.

The answer “which Valentine?” told me immediately that I had thoughtlessly stirred the hornet’s nest.

I was wrong in assuming that my confinement to bed on Valentine’s Day with flu was enough excuse not to have produced a Valentine card. 

Retreating immediately, I reassuringly said “don’t worry. Valentine has only been postponed to be celebrated when I get well.”

Then came the policy statement! “You can postpone anything, but not Valentine’s Day!” 

I instantly remembered the old saying “silence is golden” and quickly activated it, realising that, that was a dangerous time to indulge in logic.

Boys’ schools, Valentine’s Day

For us who spent seven years of our secondary education in boys’ schools, Valentine’s Day was virtually unknown. Indeed, until we married ladies who knew about Valentine’s Day, it was not part of us.

However, extreme marketing hype has projected Valentine’s Day to unprecedented heights. In Ghana, it has been additionally named Chocolate Day to promote the awareness that we must eat chocolate from our cocoa.

Incidentally, on February 12, 2021, a 95-year-old cocoa farmer said on TV that he had heard of chocolate, but had never seen/eaten one!

Conclusion

For men tempted to take Valentine’s Day lightly and plead illness on February 14, remember the policy statement: “You can postpone anything, but not Valentine’s Day!” 

Discussion

It is good to show love on Valentine’s Day, but that is not enough.

Love must be shown every day! 1 Corinthians 13 talks about the importance of love.

Verse 13 summarises, “These three remain: faith, love and hope. 

But the greatest of this is love.” 

We must therefore show love on a regular basis undivided by politics, ethnicity, sex or religion, but united as one people belonging the nation Ghana.

Leadership, lead by example! Fellow Ghanaians, wake up! 

Former CEO, African Peace Support Trainers Association,
Nairobi, Kenya/Council Chairman, Family Health University,
Accra.                        
E-mail: dkfrimpong@yahoo.com