Good & Healthy Relationship Advice & Tips
Nitty gritties in relationships
I always wonder why people claim to love each other and yet hurt one another. There have been several instances where people are killed or hurt by their partners who not long ago preached the sermon of love to them. An incident occurred in Accra last year where Eric Ohemeng suffered serious injuries after his girlfriend poured acid on him and Esther Tekyi, a student at the University of Professional Studies, was stabbed multiple times by her boyfriend. Of course it’s no crime not to stay alone.
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Being in a relationship is just like making an investment. It needs devotion, time, energy and above all unconditional love.
It seems that too many people enter into relationships with preconceptions and fantasies of how their partners should act. They tend to realize too soon that they have a formidable compatibility challenges which soon may give way to antagonism.
There is one thing to remember if you find yourself in this tight corner; there is nothing like a perfect relationship, ready-made and waiting for you.
There is a saying that there is no gain where there is no pain. If you want to enjoy your relationship, you ought to work at it. Don’t forget that we all come from different backgrounds and socialisation and so, there are bound to be differences. It therefore behoves the two of you to understand each other and unravel each other’s flaws through communication where you both accept it in good faith and try your best to work on it.
Things to look out for before dating
The first question you need to ask yourself is, how well do I know my potential partner? You can only assess a person’s true character and also check out red flags by getting close to the person. This can be done by becoming friends with the person at the initial stage without making your intentions of dating him or her known. This will likely lead you to the real character of the partner you may spend the rest of your life with. As has been the case in many instances, too many people live the lie and pretend to be who they are not. At this stage there is no blemish as they go all out to present their angelic sides.
Key questions to answer
1.Is the person violent when angry?
2.What type of friends does he keep?
3.Is he or she arrogant or humble?
4.Is he or she neat?
5.Is he or she supportive
After gathering enough information about your potential partner, It is then up to you to assess if there are definitive factors in letting you know whether your date would really hit off or not.
