The Akans say women hate four eyes; when two of them are those of a rival. And it hurts. This is because women, unlike men, make anything that is important to them an intimate part of themselves.
Again, unlike men, women see the quality and security of their relationships as the most important emotional need.
Anyone who comes close to a woman’s relationship is seen as an enemy. She may fight you verbally and if that is not working, she may fight you physically.
Three weeks ago, a highly educated woman who has been in a relationship with a playboy for four years and is planning to marry at the end of this year visited her fiancé and found a lady in his bedroom.
She asked his man who the woman was. No answer. She asked the intruder to leave. No response.
She slapped the intruder. Little did she know this lady was born and bred in Bukom, and is a progeny of our own ‘zoom, zoom, the professor.’
The intruder slapped her back and there was a big fight.
When the fiancée saw she was losing, she retreated to the open but the intruder followed up with more blows while many watched for free. It was an elderly man who stepped in to stop the fight but by that time, this fiancée had been beaten to a pulp.
She went to work the next day and tried to tell stories to cover up the bruises and the fingernail cuts on her face.
Later, she confessed to her colleagues and added that what hurt her most about the incident was that when the fight started, her man quickly dressed up and left them to their fate.
Among her colleagues, opinions were divided: some believed it was right to fight for your man, while others felt it was absolutely wrong.
Yes, fight over your man
A woman in rivalry suffers bitterness and loss of esteem. She questions if she is adequate and wonders what the other woman has that she lacks.
She loses her trust and confidence in her man and may think the only way to regain her self-esteem is to fight over her man.
When a man is cheating, his brain may move from his head and relocate between his legs. Talking to him wouldn’t do anything good.
A woman who thinks she has invested so much in her man may think it is right to fight over him to save him from a vampire.
No, don’t fight over a man
Some think it is wrong to fight your rival verbally or physically. She is not to blame, even if she is your closest friend. She is in just because your lover allowed her in, just like you.
Leave the scene and find time to discuss your concerns. If the issue is not resolved adequately, you have two options.
First, you may choose to stay on and suffer physically and emotionally. Once you accept it, it never gets better.
The other option is to believe you deserve better and move on with your life. If your lover says you are special to him, he must prove it with his fidelity because actions speak louder than words.
Will you fight over a man?
There is nothing better in life than to have one man to yourself and for yourself. Never compromise on this because there will never be lack of a lover if you have a true understanding of love.
Be a good model of womanhood. Keep yourself worthy and respectable. If you get out of the prison of multiple relationships, true love will find you.
Never condone the irresponsible acts of a man. Such a man is not good enough for you.
Never fight over a man. If you really want to fight, do this: get together with your rival and, if you can, beat this man up to a pulp for cheating on the two of you!
Will you fight over a man? If you decide to fight or not, you are right. We are the choices we make in life.
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