Love at first sight

The first session of premarital counseling is always exciting. Couples are usually asked to share how they met and the stories are often heartwarming—and sometimes hilarious.

Love truly seems to be everywhere: at the market, in the courtroom, at church, at weddings, at funerals and even in police stations.

One memorable story was about a young man who accidentally splashed water on a lady. He quickly apologised and offered to escort her home. 

From that small incident, “things started knocking things,” and today they are happily married. Many couples end their stories with the familiar phrase: “It was love at first sight.”

What is love at first sight?

You experience love at first sight when you feel an immediate romantic attraction to someone the very first time you see them.

Suddenly, this stranger seems special and you find yourself smiling, greeting or even making small offers just to catch their attention.

Your mind runs wild—you can’t stop thinking about them. You admire their every move, feel drawn to their presence and your heart races whenever they are around.

It is often said that women experience love at first sight more than men, but cultural expectations hold them back from making the first move.

Some ladies try to make themselves visible, smiling or lingering around in the hope that the man will notice. Sometimes it works, other times not.

But the real question is: does love at first sight actually exist?

The case against

Critics argue that love at first sight is a fantasy, a creation of movies and romance novels. What many call “love” in that moment is simply physical attraction. Real love, they say, goes far deeper than appearance.

People who claim to experience it may already be eager for a relationship and are simply selective about who fits their desires.

For instance, a cleaner might hesitate to say he has fallen in love with his female boss at first sight—because, as the saying goes, “monkeys play by sizes.”

In this view, love at first sight is a false sense of love—an illusion of the heart.

The case for

Others argue that love at first sight is real. As we grow, we form an image of the qualities we desire in a future partner. These images live in our subconscious.

So, when we meet someone who resembles that inner picture, it feels as though we have known them for years. The instant connection can be powerful, deep, and memorable.

What you must know

Whether or not you believe in love at first sight, remember this: meeting someone once does not guarantee a lasting relationship. It only opens the door to explore compatibility.

What truly matters are the days and months that follow. Take time to consider physical, mental, emotional and spiritual qualities.

Support each other, grow together and make informed decisions. Marriage is one of the most important choices of your life—love at first sight alone is not enough to sustain it.

So, don’t be afraid to fall in love with a stranger—love is strange and beautiful. But don’t confuse initial attraction with lasting commitment.

Love requires patience, wisdom, and nurturing.

Look before you leap. Love may open your eyes, but it can also make you blind.

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